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Even if you have to copy and post, just do it and get your consistency upright.

Write cuz it's the best way to think. Think cuz it's the best way to live.

Soon I'll write better contents. Bad. Today's post.

Go to sleep early. Try your best to> It's for you only. So please try.

Bye, I'm going for sleep.

Earn it with your hard work, it feels great that day. Not any other way.

Say Alhamdulillah 3 times.
No matter where you are or what you are doing.

I'm sure you are feeling good now.

At this point this website sucks. Nothing new, no uniqueness, nothing of speciality. Just one or two lines of mess every day with a Day (number). Common dialogue. Sucks.

Some days you'll write crap and some days you'll clap on yourself. Like a madman. And you deserve it.

But to get to that moment, you have to write a lot of crap. And you don't deserve that, but you got to deal with that.

Same for everything in life.

Enough is a mentality. Learn to accept and publish/say/finish. It's enough. Move to the next thing.

Build your dream. One step at a time. Only you can. So do.

The path is messy, be kind along the way.

More people need it nowadays. You might need it most, some day.

Make it happen or else you'll regret.

I don't feel like writing today, but I'll regret it. So I'm making it, to get the regret out of the way.

Some will call you mister, some an idiot.

Be humble when there's a pride opportunity, close your mouth when there's an insult opportunity.

Some days you really need the shortcuts.

Like wear a blue outfit to feel confident and creative again.

Yeah.

I am smart. Not any blog or post, but a self-rewarding boost for me today. Have a good day.

It is hard to lose people you bonded well online. Those are some of the best realtions ever.

But some misunderstandings can mess it all and you'll be partially liable for it.

So if you can maintain the respect for each other by distancing, go for it.

This is a painful time, yes. And you don't want them to go away from your life, but these are times that can cause you to lose your self-respect.

Rather than lose self-worth, it's better to distance and be patient and have faith in God.

Because some things really need time. If the opposite side is ready to listen and understand, it's smart to communicate.

But if they are not ready, leave them free.

If you don't go to gym, do you not worry about your body?

Maybe no.

if you sleep and wake up early, don't linger a thought for longer, not delay a task that is important plus urgent and delegate the rest, give focused attention when you do what you do, have no expectation but passionately curious, things improve.

One day you will figure it out.

Long days you will be lost but one day you will figure it out, surely, somehow, you'll figure it out.

The way to win is to care about others.

The way to care is to forget about winning.

You'll get rich.

If you work.

And if you enjoy what you do.

Plus form really good relationships with people of every level.

You know why you don't feel like studying the whole year but the last day before exam ...reading feels kinda fun?

Two reasons:
1. You don't have any option, it's a need.
2. It's just one day, tomorrow you get instant feedback of your hard work and the pain is over.

Incorporate need and instant feedback in every work for magic to happen. :wink:

You will achieve great things in life if you give it some time.

A gentle amount of protectiveness is fine. It's needed, it's crucial, it's a reflection of your care. Towards the item, habit, schedule, project, or person.

But overprotectivness is not okay. You have to let them be strong on their own. You have to not try to control everything all the time. You have to get out of their way.

One.

If you can't, try.
If you can, do.

It's always try or do, not quit.

Learn. Study.

Because nobody is coming to save you.

You need accountability partner. You need someone who reminds "u need to write" when you are close to your deadline of the day.

I read the story of an emergency medicine (ER) doctor, Amin. A young lady comes to him one day with a mild abdominal issue.

She feels bloated on and off for the last one year. Painkillers temporarily relieve her from the pain and discomfort.

She looked totally fine, though. And usually in ER, when you have a chronic problem with no acute issues, you are dealt lightly or sent back to your primary doctor.

Even after she went to her primary doctor few months ago, she still bloated and the abdominal pain lingered.

But Amin has a principle: Every patient is his family member.

He started listening. He asked questions, listened, asked some more questions. His goal: get to the gist of the problem. He wants to understand the nature and timetable of the pain.

He finally heard it:

"I have dyspareunia (pain during intercourse) and avoided being physical with my husband for the last one year due to pain."

He immediately examined her abdomen. After deep palpation for a few minutes, he finally found a sense of some soft big mobile lumps in her lower abdomen behind her fat cells.

He then got the ultrasound done and found huge overian mass on one side of the abdomen.

Then he sent her to the gynaecologist for further management.

After a few weeks, someone in the mall stopped him.

"Thank you so much, doctor. The surgeons removed my huge ovarian mass & biopsy report showed that it was benign in nature. I’m here for a follow-up now. Everything is back to normal.”

After a stun, he remembered when he saw her joy: she was the lady presenting with just some mild pain in her tummy some days ago.

Empathy is the ability to feel someone else's pain.

Compassion is the feeling of responsibility to fix that pain.

As an awesome lady beautifully pointed out in comments: "Amin, you have acted with compassion although I'm certain you felt empathy."

People like Amin gently change someone's life by giving that extra attention for no selfish reason.

Empathy plus compassion is a beautiful lady smiling once again.

Have fun with life. You have only one.

Let's go on a coffee or hike or let's bike ride? I'm available for you: https://twitter.com/Shajedul0Karim?t=LuYACZAKE3gjBNi3TTtdBA&s=09

Let's try. We only have one.

Life.

If you fail, do you cry because other people will judge you ...or do you cry because you knew you should have worked hard but you didn't!?

If it's the fear of judgement, then it's your Outer Scorecard at play. Playing by your outer scorecard means you are setting your expectation of yourself based on what people will think of you, what people says the standard is, what people says right.

Aka: you are outcome-focused because the world cares about people who shows results.

You play in your inner scorecard when you don't compromise your values or shatter your beliefs to match with the people's expectation of you.

Aka: you work on your own rules and based on what's right for you.

It's biologically natural to desire status, power, fame, fortune but is it really meaningful to you? You have to decide it on your own, rather than basing it on people's ideas.

Warren Buffet is mostly referred to with coming up with the Inner Scorecard and he asks an interesting question in this regard:

"Would you rather be the world's greatest lover, and have everyone think you're the world's worst lover? Or would you rather be the world's worst lover, and have everyone think you're the world's greatest lover?

Inner Scorecard is the where you never lose your self-respect and self-worth.

Don't lag, accelerate. Don't wait, work. Don't expect, earn. Don't waste time, start and repeat.

Do the basic. Basic stuff works.

It's fun to be wrong often. Try it.
Try to be wrong often.

It's funny your new year resolution is the same every year.

The issue is not feeling ready. You won't ever feel ready. But the only way to get close is to start small, take baby steps.

This reduces overwhelm, and it doesn't scare your lizard brain.

Everything is complex at start but to get closer to your destination, the first step should be small... just one foot forward. Or else your lizard (the most ancient part of the brain) brain gets scared due to flight or fight impulse.

Perfectionism is a form of procrastination.
Tomorrow is a form of procrastination.
Complicating it is a form of procrastination.

Start small and just get done with it.

Forgive yourself often.

To make them wonder in awe, you have to work hard on the right thing in silence. With patience. For long enough.

Only you can change your life. Please remember.

Drive carefully, your life, your relationships, your car. Especially when you are alone. Especially when someone is along with you on the way.

Especially when some else's life depends on you.

"One principle eliminates a thousand decisions."―@Johnny_Uzan

I read this today and it felt right.

Then I thought. Some of the principles I abide by or trying to live by soon:

honesty at all costs.
no jokes, no making fun of anyone.
be kind and humble.
keep promises.
be on time.
do what's urgent plus important right away.
compliment and understand, not criticize and hurt.
stay curious and never stop learnings.
get meals on time and hydrate regularly.

More to come.

It was a good day. No helpful advice or cool motivation today, but just an update of my life. It was a good day.

Break yourself. I mean give yourself breaks often, it's compulsory, so that you don't break yourself.

Forgive people, it'a a big thing.

Suck at what you do. You'll only learn that way. And finally deserve it.

Walking makes you think, that's all you need.

That's it for today, I am going for a walk now.

Occasionally take big bets on underdogs.

Give them a long enough timeline with a few initial resources to get started and you are going to see wonders in real life.

And you'll be proud you did.

Rather than say you can't, ask what would it take?

Then just start it, that's the hard part. But once you start, you just have to not stop and you'll reach what you want after a reasonable timeline.

I don't want to write today but I will. Because if I don't, nobody will. Care.

Some days some devils will desperately want your attention.

That devil can be your lil sister who wants to suddenly play with you.
It could be your unexpected toothache.
It could also be a without-notice sight or remembrance of someone you dislike.
It could even be your left out past.
It can also be an unavoidable situation on a random day.

And it can also be your ego.

Some are not devils, only you have to make the choice. So beware. But be calm.

If you write 1 page per day, you'll have a book by 222 days.

Apart from weekends, vacation days, and official and festival holidays, we have exact 222 days.

Write, cuz that can be the best investment of your life.

Some days you won't feel like it.
You won't feel like doing it.
But push through it.
The consistency will keep piling.
And you gotta be patient.
And one day, one random day, it will be magical.

I don't feel like writing. I feel like quitting it all. I don't feel I am smart enough. I don't feel like I have a interesting perspective. I don't have a voice. I am not good enough. How can I be good enough? Can I really be good enough? I wish I was good enough.

Help them with chore.
Deal with them with care.
Talk with them with respect.
Understand their context and perspectives.

Cherish them. You'll miss them, when they aren't. There.

Build your home from scratch. You have to start today.

You'll change people's life by promoting them with what they deserve.

When success hits, it's a weird feeling.

Weird because you have more than one feeling.

One is joy for finally making it, another sorrow because the wait is over.

Honestly the wait for success is more fun and joyful then the success.

Maybe the journey is better than destination insight is not wrong.

So: I got my university offer letter for Germany (currently I live in Oman).

The next step is face the Embassy, get Visa, go. And be away from family.

I cried after months today. Not plain months. Maybe like 12 months later.

The initial cry was bad. I felt terrible.

Earlier I usually used to cry for my exam report day, or end of vacation, etc. So I used to tie my arms around dad when he sleeps.

The curtains used to pass shiny light, it was morning. It felt good.

Then maybe over time I did other crazy things I forget.

Slowly as I grew, I didn't tie my arms around him. But he and mom sleeping peacefully by the grace of God gave me a good feeling.

I also started watching my younger sister (she is 8). She usually sleeps. But I watch. I feel good.

The cry is for a few reasons:
1. I will be all alone, for the first time
2. Mom won't wake me up
3. She plugs my phone on charge even if I don't say her because she knows I need it fully charged for my work
4. I drive my car, dad guides me sitting in passenger sit (I recently got my licence)
5. Usually younger sister brings me water in a glass when I take medicine
6. I walk a long distance to gym with my younger bro

And a few more things.

But the last cry of today felt good. I was praying my Zuhr salat and the moment after the big cry felt good.

Alhamdulillah.

I realized people really cry for 3 big reasons:
1. When they fig

Okay I'll share that some other day.

Your life will change when you connect with more than one people per day. Try it, it's more fun than watching Netflix.

Work will never need a break, but you do.

Occasionally give yourself some free time.
Wander.
Don't feel guilty.
Just be.
Feel the moment.
Enjoy the presence.
Breathe out heavy.
Blink.
Feel free.
Look at the empty roof.
Or maybe sit on raw wet mud.
Stop the overthink.
Stay.
Feel.
Live.
Breath.
Relax, really.
Forgive.
Rest.
Enjoy.

But be careful.

Be happy for everything you have. Then you'll have more.

Sleep on time then a lot of things take care of itself. So do it, not for anyone else, but you.

Practice, you'll reap the benefits.

Just do it, no matter what, just do it and persist.

Your life will change some day. You just have to keep trying for long enough days.

Write, even if late, write. It's self-care. Then, one day, compound interest will surprise you.

Some days you'll mess it, some days you'll make it magic.

Wait. Try. Push. Be.